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A lot of readers just after a break up with their ex girlfriends are finding this blog by googling or binging ‘win back ex’. If you really want to try again with your ex, here’s today’s question:
Did you think you were good enough for her?
Deep down, a lot of guys, either from the word go, or as the relationship progresses, have this sinking feeling that “she’s out of my league” or “I’m not good enough for her.”
“I can’t believe she’s with me!”
Yet one thing pretty much all dating and PUA writers agree on is that a woman wants to be with a man who she can look up to in some way. A man with equal or greater value.
She left you (and this blog is mostly for guys who have been left behind) which in itself means she felt your value was lower. It was already decreasing just before she told you: “it’s over.”
Which brings me back to today’s question. If you felt that you weren’t good enough for her during the relationship, then hold off on that call to her until you are feeling better about yourself. Maybe your confidence fell during the relationship or you began to feel insecure – eventually she would have sensed this and started to believe too that you weren’t ‘good enough.’ If you didn’t believe you were good enough, then why should she?
But if you can ask this question and try to learn more about yourself, then give yourself two points – it’s a big start towards building a better ‘foundations’ for yourself when you start to be more comfortable and accepting of who you are!
Once your life is back in motion, all kinds of doors may open. But you’ve had a break up, and the door is closed for now – so before you give her a call, wait til when the door is open.
This all leads me to another question: if you felt you weren’t good enough, why was this?
Take some time here to answer. Write your response in a diary – it could reveal a lot about how things went between you two.
Was she someone who supported you – or someone who put you down?
And how did you feel when you were with her? What feelings did you get from the relationship?
If you lost some of yourself while you were with her – who you were, your confidence or self-esteem – then what does this say about the relationship?
