Just after your break up, you might be thinking: “I want her back, I want to win her back.” So you set out to somehow ‘win’ her back. You think of her more, and you are SO sure that she’ll ‘come to her senses’ and want to reconcile with you.
The problem here is that you are investing more and more in the relationship at a time when she – from the very action of breaking up with you and then dis-engaging from you – is investing less and less.
If a man invests more in the relationship and its outcome at a time like this and under these circumstances, I am sure you can guess what happens next: his ’strategy’ to win her back flops.
There are a lot of ebooks out there on how to win your ex girlfriend back but almost all of them overlook this important point, probably in the name of sales.
If you want her back or not, the only surefire way to move forward is to ‘balance the scales’ here:
Invest more in YOU. Once you can do this, and this may take you some time, then you are in a better position to decide if you want to try again or not.
david(at)bouncebackfromabreakup.com
