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Just after your break up, sometimes its best to read a little at a time and digest it in small bites. As well you’ll note that some of my posts have similar themes – some guys need to hear and read break up advice many times before they begin to internalise it.
Just to add from my previous post, I was reminded of a guy I knew from America last year who was having problems dealing with his break up, and accepting that it was all over. He refused to give in, and he wanted to ‘fight for her’ and ’show her’ he loved her.
He invested more and more energy into the outcome – ‘winning’ her back – that he completely lost what he was doing with his life.
He came across as desperate, perhaps obsessive, and certainly unattractive to the one girl who he wanted to attract.
This is what I mean when I say get the focus back onto YOU.
A woman is not going to want to be with a man who’s unattractive and down after a break up. She might feel guilty about hurting you, but this guilt is not the basis of a healthy new relationship.
So the only thing you can do is sort your own life out. Sometimes it’s the guys who’ve lost their bigger purpose in life who can’t deal with the break up and instead make her their purpose.
It doesn’t work like this.
If you want her back.. well you’ve just had a break up. You can’t re-build things until you are feeling better about yourself AND in a better positive to ask yourself one question which may not be on your mind today:
“Is she right for me?”
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